Friday, March 27, 2020

Covid-19 Day 7


Today is day 7 of "flattening the curve" and "Social distancing" for me anyway.  For others, it started about a week before I did.

It's really not that bad staying away from people.  Maybe I'm more skilled at it than some people, truth is, people annoy me and so I stay away from them for the most part anyway.  In the last 7 days, I have been out in public 2 times.  I have lots of things to do to take up my time.  I have a bunch of hobbies that I have neglected for a long while, so while I'm waiting for this to end, I pass my days creating or looking for a job for when this is over.

The news is more than I can deal with watching the same stories over and over.  I can't dwell on it constantly.  Although they are supposed to be voting on a huge stimulus bill today, which I hope passes, you know there is always some moron in the batch just waiting to fuck things up.

At first, there were a lot of crappy stories coming out of people fighting mostly for toilet paper or chicken parts.  That all seems to have calmed down for the most part.  People are still hoarding food and so most of the stores have to put signs on the shelves that limit the amount you can buy.  I have never been a hoarder, but I have always stocked up on stuff when it was on sale.  I didn't really need to run out and spend all my money on toilet paper.  Maybe people will learn from this, most likely not.

Anyway, day 7 and we are doing fine.  I will probably have to go out early next week to get stuff for my doggie, so until that time I will do what I can to flatten this curve and pray for man and womankind.


Monday, March 23, 2020

Covid-19 The best & The worst - Part 1

So here I am, day one of self quarantining.  As of Friday, I lost my job.  NY, NJ, and PA are all basically closed to all non-essential businesses and the future is looking very sketchy.  This is probably going to be a very long post.

I am cautiously worried about this whole situation.  Maybe I watch & read too many apocalyptical shows and books.  But this is pretty much how they all begin.  An alien virus starts, or biological warfare, in china,  the mid-east, the rain forest, or a train or an arena,  it grows, some moron pokes it with a stick and they get infected, brings it back to the civilized world and then before you know it, we have a pandemic and people are rising from the dead. 

As of today, March 23rd, 2020, two weeks ago the schools in PA shut down and the news has been harping on this virus non-stop.  Not that I don't think they should report the truth, but by continuously fear-mongering, I think they have made it worst.  Most people are not that intelligent and when you mix low IQs with fear, you have an explosive cocktail.  Which is partially what we are seeing now.  Facebook and the constant misinformation that's passed there, doesn't help.  With everyone pretty much homebound, there has been a surge in the stupidity of Facebook posts lately.

About a week ago right after PA closed all the schools, it spun people into panic shopping.  People were fighting over rolls of toilet paper and chicken.  I have never seen the food stores so empty of everything. (except anything healthy, LOL)  It makes me very irritated to see that people became fever pitch fearful overnight.  That's not saying that I  think people shouldn't heed the warnings, it's better to be cautious than indifferent.  But to go to a food store, market or any place to get food like everyone else does and to act so badly publicly, thinking only about yourself, is NOT the way Americans should be acting.  I don't give a fuck what your color, creed or religion is, you do not have a right to act like a fucking moron in public, expect to be publicly shamed for your bad behavior.  It's to the point now where stores have to LIMIT most things so people don't go in and buy whatever is on the shelf.  To me that is just despicable, you should get the virus and do us a favor and take your gene pool out of existence for being a gluttonous pig.  Doing this is very UnAmerican. Take what you need and leave the rest for someone else, That is what Americans should do.  Americans shouldn't have to be told to act like adults, but then again, that's why I say that most are not very bright and become fearful too easily.

But with the really despicable bad behavior, there have been a few things that have choked me up because they are just so kind.  Kindness in the face of uncertainty is what true Americans do.  To give of your time, money or effort when all seems so bleak, that is what true Americans do.  We are kind, compassionate and we do care about our elders, children, and neighbors. 

I have seen people pooling together to make masks for hospitals and care centers, in their own houses of course.  I have seen people handing out supplies to older people who are too frail to rumble with the assholes in the supermarkets, they are also the most vulnerable.  I have also seen people offering to help people who can't help themselves by running errands.  There is still good, kindness and empathy in this world and we need to see and focus on that. 

Remember to:
1. wash your hands frequently
2. practice social distancing
3. Call your doctor or teledoctor if you feel you have the 3 symptoms - don't post online - your doctor will tell you what to do. 
4. Don't freak out if they don't think you should be tested.
5. Be kind to people, everyone is scared.
6. We are all in this together.

Be Safe, Be Well




Friday, January 24, 2020

The Choices We Make



Sometimes we make bad choices.  That's just a part of life.  Sometimes we make spot on choices which elevate our self esteem.  Sometimes we don't really think through how the consequences of our choices or actions will effect those around out.  Most times we have to live with the choices we make and other times the choices we make turn out to be the best decisions of our lives.

Don't be too hard on yourself about the choices you make.  We learn about ourselves by these choices and become stronger for them.


Monday, December 30, 2019

Memorial for an Old Friend


Today, Dec 30, 2019 we said goodbye to an old friend.  He was one of my 4 beloved companion pets, Fred Astaire aka Fat Freddy.  

We met during the winter of 2010.  He was a feral cat living with a colony on the dead end street I lived on in Matawan NJ.  He was so friendly that Tom and I thought he was someones pet or maybe even dumped there.  But he didn't have a collar and was outside even in the snow and there was a lot of snow that year.  I thought he may have been the kids next doors cat, but when I asked, they said no.  

He was just such a nice, pleasant animal, we were compelled to take him in.  While he was friendly he was also cautious, we coaxed him daily with food for about a week then brought him into the house.  From there on out, he knew he had it good!  

He remained an outside cat his whole life but would come home at night to sleep in the cozy home we made for him.  

Soon after we took him in, we took him to our vet to get shots and neutered.  We all thought he was about a year or so old.  We came to find out he was already neutered.  We knew there was a group that ran a catch and release program for the colony that lived in that area, maybe he was part of that colony after all?  He was definitely fixed after the time when he should be, because he still sprayed when we wouldn't let him out at night.  Learning curve, Fred got to go out when he wanted, always. 

When we moved to PA, Freddy came with us.  He gained a lot of weight, to the tune of 30 lbs.  He was our master mouser and vermin serial killer extraordinaire.  He would catch and eat the heads off of bugs and leave their headless corpses on the patio.  Many times we had to chase mice or birds he would bring into the house.  He was a prolific killing machine.  And we respected  and loved that about him.

A few years after we took him in, he fell very ill, he had crystals in his kidneys and nearly died because he could not pee.  We didn't know that feral cats cant really digest dry cat food the way domestic cats can.  We fed both our cats wet and dry food.  Needless to say, he went to the vet and was in the hospital for 2 days getting his kidneys flushed.  He came back from that and we kept the dry food away from him as much as we could.  We began putting water in his wet food and bowls of a water/milk mixture in the morning.  He never really drank from the filtered water bowl that the other animals would drink from.  For years he was good with the added water and milk mixture.  

He was one of the goofiest cats I have ever seen.  He didn't like to be picked up but once in a while he would jump into your lap.  I just loved to smoosh him because he was so big and mushie and had the softest fur.  He was an armful.

He would lay on the patio chairs or hunt in and around the garage.  He never really roamed too far from home.  He always hung out with the dogs.  He didn't really like smokey.. lol  Sometimes I thought, he thought, he was a dog.  He'd get right in line with them for treats.  

He would sit under Tom's truck in the driveway and wait for me to come home from work and run up to me for pets and some loving.   He greeted me every day, he knew my car and he knew what time I got home.  He loved the catnip bushes I planted for him in the garden outback and always pooped in my front gardens where the earth was soft.  He would nap under the lily fronds on the side of the house on  the hot summer days.  He was potty trained but he preferred going outside, just like the dogs!  Many times he pulled food right off Toms plate, once he picked a meatball out of a pot of sauce on the stove.  He loved to wear my shoes and he had an infinity for feet.  Such a strange and wonderful cat was he.

I feel blessed that he came into our lives, he gave us love and laughter.  Its funny how a chance meeting brought us together and how big of a piece of my heart feels like its gone now.  These furry little creatures come into our lives and remind us that we are human, and they love us without conditions, and all they want in return is to be loved and cared for.  Animals teach us how to be kind and patient and to enjoy every day we have here on earth.

He got sick right before thanksgiving this year, and deteriorated quickly.  The doctor said he may have been older than we originally though.  When he started to loose strength in his back legs we knew what had to be done.  It doesn't make it any easier, but it is the last act of kindness we can show these wonderful creatures who bring so much joy to our lives.

I will always remember you Fat Freddy and the love we will always have for you.  You filled my heart with joy and laughter for the short time you were here with us. Go now my boy, over the rainbow bridge.  


Friday, December 27, 2019

Follow the leader


Great leaders don't set out to be a leader, they set out to make a difference.  Its never about the role its always about the goal.

Being a leader isn't just a title, as a matter of fact, its not a title at all.  Because you were granted with title of manager, vp or even president doesnt automatically make you a leader.  Becoming a leader is much more complicated than that, becoming a leader is about how far you will go to rally your troops, stand in the line of fire or be the voice of the people that look up to you.

I'm not talking about a live war theater, I'm talking about corporations and companies.  Although sometimes working in an office environment is certainly like working in a war zone.

Having spent a good part of my life working in a corporate setting, I have seen some really amazing leaders and some truly bad people turn great companies into a wasteland of unmotivated & lackluster employees.

I believe a true leader will always exhibit the following 5 qualities.

A true leader will lead by example.  They will walk the walk they preach.  How can you ask your employees to do something that you feel is beneath you?  Whether its how you dress or even address people, it matters.  Smile and remember peoples names.  It does go a long way.

A true leader will listen and assess the situation without judging.   A leader of people will not base their reasoning on preconceived notions or things that other employees may have gossiped to them.  They will listen and ask questions and show that they care about the outcome. 

A true leader will be honest and have integrity.  There is no way to build a successful team without trust.   If you are not honest or have integrity you will never build that essential trust.

A true leader will motivate people to do better.  Its not just telling people "do better" its inspiring people to do better.  Its about making people feel like they are part of something bigger than themselves.

A true leader never stops learning, and they do not act as though they already know everything.  A know-it-all is just that, a spoiled person who thinks too highly of themselves so they never open themselves up to learn.  A closed mind is a follower not a leader.

A leader is a person who not only has the courage and perseverance to succeed on their own but also to lift up those around them to succeed too!  We see all levels of leadership every day, they may not be the CEOs or VPs but they are the people in your life that you know you can go to when you need guidance and reassurance. 

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”